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back to work October 24, 2010

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Tomorrow I’m back to work.  It’s just a temporary assignment (2-4 weeks) but that’s 2-4 weeks of paychecks that I wouldn’t have, so I’ll take it.  It’s going to be a big change though.  It’s going to be a change to go to bed earlier and get up earlier.  It’s going to be a change to drive an hour to work and an hour home.  It’s going to be a change for Lexi to be back in daycare.  I’m sure the first couple of days are going to be hard for her.  She’s going to be back around people that she doesn’t really know.  But, she has always adjusted relatively well to change, so I’m sure in a day or 2 she will be fine.  She’s gone to this daycare before so she does know the kids and adults, so that’s reassuring.  I’m excited to be back out and doing something.

Speaking of Lexi, she’s so amazing!  I swear she does or says something new everyday!  Last night she successfully pointed to eyes, ears, nose, mouth, belly, and toes when I asked her where they were.  She knows that a cow says moo, a dog says woof, and a duck says quack.  Her new love is her baby dolls.  She discovered that she has several baby dolls and she loves to carry them around and give them kisses, with a big smack!  She has also found a love for sweeping the floor with the Swiffer sweeper.  I don’t know where she got thbe cleanliness from, but she seems to be a clean freak.  She’s very independent, but loves her family so much.  She goes to bed drowsy, but awake, after sitting on my lap for 30 minutes or so, just relaxing.  She sleeps in her bed all night, with the occassional whine, which I think is just to see if mom and dad will come check on her.  This weekend after watching her 2 year old twin cousins climb up into the rocking chair by themselves, she decided she could do that also.  Here comes the climbing phase.    We finally found her a cute ladybug costume for Halloween and I can’t wait to see her in it!  She also had her first professional photo shoot last weekend!  You see, we took her when she was 3 months old to get her pictures done at Sears, and she screamed the entire time.  I left there so upset with my colicky, screaming baby and never tried it again.  There was no lack of pictures though…I just took them all myself.  So, I will leave you with a preview of Lexi’s proofs.


changes July 24, 2010

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Well, the subject says it all.  There are big changes happening in our life right now.  And being the couple that we are, neither one of us likes change, so we have to go through a period where we mope around about it. 

Change #1 was me going back to work full time.  I LOVE my job!  I love the people I work with (well most of them).  I love our product…shameless plug here.  2 awesome products that I get to sell every single day!

Change #2 stems from change #1.  Lexi had to start daycare.  She did ok at daycare.  My husband wasn’t really comfortable with her there, for reasons that are perfectly logical.  While I thought we hadn’t given it enough time.  But alas, my sister in law was going to be staying home with her 3 girls all summer, so she offered to watch Lexi for us.  We pay her what we were paying the daycare, because I believe that family deserves to be paid for babysitting, even if they’re your family!  Needless to say, Lexi loves it there!  She loves playing with “the girls” and I think they enjoy having her around.

Change #3 will be coming up next week.  As of July 30, Jacob will no longer be employed by the Beggs Telephone Company.  An opportunity FINALLY came at the school, so he’s taking a teaching position there.  It’s what he went to school to do, and it’s what he really has wanted to do all along.  We are very thankful for the time he had at the telephone company.  He made some really great friends that I know he will stay in contact with.  We were also blessed to have full family covered insurance there.  So, with all my medical bills leading up to getting pregnant, then my pregnancy and eventual hospital bedrest, then Lexi in the NICU for 9 days, the insurance took care of a good part of our bill.  Thank heavens!

Change #4 will be when Lexi starts going to the daycare at the school.  We aren’t sure if my sister in law is going to be getting another job once her kids go back to school, but we want her to have that opportunity.  The school daycare is very well run, and I trust them with my child.  My nephews go there and love it, from everything I’ve heard.  I know it won’t take long for Lexi to get used to the other kids.  But, in the past week she’s developed a horrible habit of being mean to other kids!  My nieces are 5 and 6 and Lexi bullies them constantly through the day.  She even made an attempt to bite today!  Naturally, my first word of advice was SPANK HER!  Now, I’m not giving the ok to beat my kid.  But, I do think a swat on the hand can stop bad habits early on.  Anyways….I’m not getting into a spanking debate here.  But, I don’t want to have the bratty kid that all the teachers groan when she walks in the door in the morning and sing hallelujah when she leaves in the evenings!

Change #5 is insurance.  Jacob will have his insurance covered at the school.  They don’t cover whole families and the plans they offer for families are outrageously expensive.  We, and when I say we, I mean Jacob, did a lot of research on insurance companies.  First major problem is that no one HAS to have maternity coverage.  That’s a big deal for us because we do want to start trying for baby number 2 in the near future.  We narrowed the list down to 2 and decided to go with the cheaper one (duh).  But, when we start looking up our drs to see if they are covered, we hit a brick wall.  My ob/gyn isn’t in network with them.  Major FAIL.  I told Jacob I didn’t want to be harsh, or to say yeah, let’s throw an extra hundred bucks away, but there’s no way in hell I’m changing dr’s.  Dr. Lakin was my saving grace so many times!  She always knew exactly the right things to say through my miscarriages and failed cycles.  And she was right there beside me through my whole pregnancy, doing everything she could to keep me and Lexi safe.  She knew I would hate hospital bedrest, but she put me there anyways because she knew it was best.  She stayed late that first night to come and check on me and let me know everything that was going to happen, and that I was going to be there for the long haul.  She knows my whole story.  She knows ME, without having to flip through my chart every time I talk to her.  SO…I think we’re going to opt for the more expensive plan for me, and the less expensive plan for Lexi.

All things considered, our life is great!  We get to come home every night, just the 3 of us.  Sometimes it just hits me that we are a REAL FAMILY!  We’re not just a married couple anymore.  We really have a family.  We have routines…that don’t always fall correctly. 🙂  We get to cuddle Lexi for a few hours in the evenings, give her a bath, and put her in bed.  Then we get to have our “US” time….which usually consists of making fun of stuff off the internet, laughing loud, and falling asleep happy.

I love this life!  Changes are coming, but they will not get the best of us!


Loving life May 10, 2010

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Things have been so nice lately! It was finally warm enough last week for Lexi to get in her pool. She LOVED it!
My baby also turned 1 a week ago. I can’t believe her first year is already gone.
Yesterday was our second Mother’s Day since Lexi was born. However, this one was extra special because Lexi was actually at home. Last year she was still in the NICU.
I had a job interview last week, which turned into a second interview, and now I’m playing the waiting game. Hoping that they call me back and offer me a job.
In picture 3: How many binkies does Lexi need?
Please click the pictures to view them larger…especially the 3rd one.


April 26, 2009 April 26, 2010

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A year ago today I didn’t know that I would be admitted to labor and delivery the very next day. It’s crazy to think about that time. A year ago I was just lazily bed-resting. My oh my how my life has changed since then!


a better mom February 18, 2010

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I just spent at least 2 hours reading a blog. It’s a mommy blog. Not the funny, listen to what my kid did, kind of blog. This woman truly loves her family with her whole heart. It makes me sad that I haven’t enjoyed Lexi’s 9 months as much as I should have. I haven’t helped Lexi to enjoy her 9 months like I should have. I get too worked up and too stressed out to enjoy everything. But, looking at the pictures of this woman’s beautiful brand new baby girl makes me long to have those days to do over again. I guess if there was something I could do over again it would be to just enjoy her more. Snuggle with her more. I know those snuggle times are quickly fading. Soon, my baby girl will be on the move and won’t want to sit on mama’s lap.
But, through all our struggles and hard times…I love her with everything I have. I can’t imagine life without her, and often fear that she will be taken from me because I don’t deserve her. It feels like she’s been here forever, but it feels like 9 months have gone by so fast.
Lexi, I’m sorry that I haven’t been the best mama. I’m sorry that I get stressed out when you’re upset and I can’t figure out how to help you. I love you! You are my everything!


Just an update January 14, 2010

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Well, let’s see. Christmas was amazing, as it is every year. But, 2009 was especially amazing. It was Lexi’s first Christmas, and it was a white Christmas in Oklahoma…that rarely happens! I specifically remember one year playing Wiffleball in Grandma Eva’s front yard wearing no coats. It was that same day that we got the ball stuck in a big cedar tree and Zach climbed all the way to the top to get it. It was hilarious seeing his red hair pop out of the top of the tree!
New Year’s Eve was unusual in the fact that we didn’t have something big to do. Lexi and I went and hung out with family for a couple hrs, but got home around 10. When the ball dropped I was the only one awake…so I snuck into Lexi’s room, snapped her first picture of 2010 and gave her a New Year’s kiss.
Since then Lexi is cutting 2 new teeth. They are both on top, but they aren’t “even.” One appears to be a front tooth, but the other one is far enough over that I’m really thinking it’s going to be a canine. She doesn’t let me look in there for very long at a time, so it’s hard to tell. She may have been a little more cranky when she started getting them…but nothing like when she was battling reflux and colic. Since Christmas and New Year’s her schedule is so messed up, and I haven’t been able to get it straightened out. She used to get her bath at 8. Eat a bottle, and usually be asleep by 8:30. Not anymore! She still gets a bath at 8, but then SHE decides if she wants to eat and go to sleep. Sometimes we’re up until 10 or later with her. Thankfully Jacob is really good about taking her during this time so I can go chill in bed and wind down so I can fall asleep at a decent hour. She used to sleep in until around 8. Well, that has changed too. Even though she generally falls asleep later she has been waking up around 6:30. Like, completely wide awake and ready for the day. The first thing I do is try to feed her. Some days she will chug down 6 oz and other days she doesn’t want to eat at all. The next thing I do is lay her back in her bed and turn on her lullaby music, and I go back to bed. Usually she’ll lay in there and play until she falls back asleep. Then she sleeps until around 10. I’m so thankful she has been going back to sleep. I don’t know how I would do if she was getting up that early every day. When she wakes up early she is in a bad mood all day, so am I, and it’s miserable! At her 6 month checkup the dr told me to start feeding her 3 babyfood meals a day, plus she should be eating 28-32oz of formula per day. There was no way I could even get her to eat 3 meals a day…she just wouldn’t do it. Until about a week ago. Then she started wanting to eat more. But, now that she’s eating 3 meals a day she isn’t taking as much formula. She sometimes only eats about 20 oz per day. I’m not really concerned about it, because I can’t make her eat if she doesn’t want to eat. But, I don’t want her weight percentile to go down at her 9 month checkup. She’s 8 months old but still wearing 3-6 month onesies and 6-9 month pants and pj’s. She’s always been about that far behind though. She didn’t start wearing 0-3 month clothes until she was 3 months old. She also has the tiniest feet ever! I picked up a pair of 3-6 month shoes at walmart and they were a good half inch bigger than her feet. She also still has no desire to crawl. I think it’s just because she’s stubborn and wants to do things on her time. She’s been like that from day 1 in the NICU. She didn’t want to stay warm on her own…she didn’t want to gain weight 3 days in a row…etc. Even though there are times when I get frustrated with her, I love her so much. I can’t imagine where my life would be without her. And I can’t believe I lived so many years without her!